Most men never figure out dirty talk because they approach it the wrong way from the start. They look for lines to memorize rather than trying to understand why certain words land and others do not. They treat it like a script rather than a conversation. And then they wonder why it feels awkward every time.
This guide is built differently. The 180 phrases here are organized by moment and intensity level so you always have something that fits where things actually are, not where you wish they were. Each section includes notes on timing and delivery because the same sentence can work beautifully or fall completely flat depending on how and when you use it.
Work through the full guide, including the mistakes section at the end. That part is just as important as the phrases themselves.
Everything in this guide is written for consenting adults in mutual, willing interactions. All phrases assume genuine interest and comfort from both people involved. Read the room at every stage.
The Real Reason Dirty Talk Works
Sexual arousal in women is heavily connected to mental and emotional engagement. That is not a guess, it is one of the most consistent findings in sexual psychology research. When a woman feels genuinely desired, mentally stimulated, and emotionally safe, her body responds to that. Words are one of the most direct ways to create all three of those conditions at once.
Dirty talk that works does something very specific. It makes her feel like your desire is pointed directly at her, not at a generic attractive person, but at her in particular. That specificity is what separates something that lands from something that feels borrowed from a bad movie.
The three things that kill dirty talk are jumping ahead of the moment, sounding like you practiced in a mirror, and talking about what you want without connecting it to her specifically. All three come up again in the mistakes section. Keep them in mind as you read through the phrases.
Part 1: Before Anything Physical Has Started (1 to 20)
These are for the buildup. Texts, whispered comments, things said across a table or on a walk home. The goal here is not to be explicit. The goal is to put something in her mind that she cannot stop thinking about.
Over Text
- “I have been thinking about you in a way that is not entirely appropriate.” Suggestive without spelling anything out, which leaves her imagination doing the work for you.
- “Tonight is going to be one of those nights. Just wanted to give you some notice.” Confident, specific in implication, and vague enough that she fills in the rest herself.
- “I keep getting distracted by thoughts of you and I have genuinely given up fighting it.”
- “I want to tell you what I have been thinking about but I would rather show you.”
- “You have been in my head since this morning and you should probably know that.”
- “I have some ideas about tonight and none of them are appropriate for a text message.”
- “The thing I want to do to you tonight requires patience. I have been practicing.”
- “I want you. I am not being subtle about it anymore.”
- “I had a dream about you last night that I would not describe as appropriate.”
- “Clear your evening. I have plans that require your full attention.”
Said in Person, Quietly
- “You look so good tonight that I am finding it genuinely hard to pay attention to anything else.”
- “I have been watching you for the last ten minutes and I am done pretending I have not.”
- “Keep looking at me like that and see what kind of evening this turns into.”
- “There is something I want to do to you that I cannot do in public.”
- “I have thought about this moment enough times that I feel like I owe you an apology.”
- “Lean in. I want to say something I cannot say at this volume.” Then say something simple. The setup does most of the work.
- “I am going to need considerable self-control tonight and I want you to know that is your fault.”
- “You make it genuinely difficult to be patient and I want you to take that as a compliment.”
- “I have been waiting for tonight for a while. You have no idea.”
- “Whatever you are planning to say next, there is a strong chance I am already thinking about something else.”
Part 2: Early Physical Escalation (21 to 50)
Things have started. The goal now shifts from creating anticipation to deepening presence. These phrases communicate desire, slow things down in a good way, and make her feel fully seen.
Physical Desire and Presence
- “You have absolutely no idea how good you look right now.”
- “I have been waiting for this. I mean that.”
- “I want to take my time with you. We are not rushing anything.”
- “Every single part of you feels incredible.”
- “Do not hide. I want to see you.”
- “You taste so good.”
- “I could do this forever and I would not complain once.”
- “Your body is genuinely perfect.”
- “I want to touch every part of you and I plan to take my time doing it.”
- “Being this close to you does something to me that I cannot describe.”
Direction and Control, Use Carefully
These carry a dominant tone. They work well when there is an existing dynamic between you where she responds positively to that energy. Do not open with these if that dynamic has not already been established.
- “Tell me exactly what you want right now.”
- “Look at me. I want to see your face.”
- “Say my name.”
- “Do not move. Stay right there.”
- “You are not going anywhere yet.”
- “Let me take care of you properly.”
- “Tell me when something feels good.”
- “Stop thinking and just feel what is happening.”
- “I have got you. You can let go.”
- “You are allowed to be as loud as you want.”
Mid-Escalation Explicit
- “I want to go down on you until thinking becomes genuinely difficult for you.”
- “I have been thinking about being inside you since before I picked you up.”
- “I want to feel you come.”
- “You are already so wet and we have barely started.”
- “I want to taste you everywhere.”
- “Tell me you want this.”
- “I am going to make you come harder than you expect.”
- “You feel unbelievable around me.”
- “I want to watch you completely lose it.”
- “The way you respond to me is genuinely going to end me.”
Part 3: Fully Explicit (51 to 90)
These belong in moments where things are already fully underway and both of you are completely in it. Dropped at the wrong time they land awkwardly. In the right moment they hit harder than almost anything else on this list.
Sensation and Intensity (51 to 65)
- “You feel so fucking incredible.”
- “I cannot get close enough to you.”
- “I want to be inside you for the rest of the night.”
- “Tell me where you want my mouth.”
- “I want to feel every single part of you.”
- “You make me so hard it is genuinely difficult to think.”
- “Just like that. Do not change a single thing.”
- “Right there. Keep going exactly like that.”
- “More.”
- “Harder.”
- “Slower. I want to feel every second of this.”
- “I love the way you feel around me.”
- “You are so tight.”
- “I want to watch what you do to me.”
- “You are so sexy right now it is not fair.”
Possession and Raw Desire (66 to 80)
- “You are all I want and I mean that in the most literal possible sense.”
- “I want to fuck you every single morning for the rest of my life.”
- “I will never get enough of you. I have accepted this.”
- “Tonight your body belongs to me.”
- “You make me lose my mind completely.”
- “I want to watch you fall apart.”
- “I am nowhere near finished with you.”
- “Come for me. Right now.”
- “I want you dripping for me.”
- “I am going to ruin you in the best possible way.”
- “You are exactly where I want you.”
- “Give me everything.”
- “I want you to come at least twice tonight.”
- “I want to feel every time you come.”
- “You feel so fucking perfect.”
High Intensity Direct (81 to 90)
- “Tell me what you want me to do to you. All of it.”
- “I am going to take my time with every inch of your body.”
- “I want you on all fours.”
- “Get on your knees.”
- “Touch yourself while I watch.”
- “Tell me your dirtiest thought right now.”
- “I want to go down on you until your legs stop working.”
- “Tell me you want my cock.”
- “I want you riding me right now.”
- “I am going to make you forget everything except what is happening in this room.”
Part 4: Playful and Teasing (91 to 115)
These are for building heat before anything physical has happened, or for keeping things light and fun during it. Playful dirty talk is often underestimated. It builds comfort, signals that you are not taking yourself too seriously, and makes the escalation feel natural rather than calculated.
- “You are a problem I have completely stopped trying to solve.”
- “I cannot tell if you are doing this on purpose but either way I am impressed.”
- “You have the kind of energy that makes sensible decision-making very difficult.”
- “That is genuinely not a fair thing to do to a person.”
- “Whatever you are thinking right now, I agree with it.”
- “I would behave myself but you keep making that harder by existing.”
- “Say that again. Slowly.”
- “You are testing me and I want you to know it is absolutely working.”
- “Keep that up and see where this evening ends up.”
- “I would tell you what I am thinking but you might get ideas.”
- “You look like trouble. I have decided to lean into that.”
- “I am going to need you to be slightly less attractive so I can function.”
- “There are several things I want to do to you that I am going to need you to consent to first.”
- “You are the reason I cannot think straight right now and I think you know that.”
- “Every time you do that thing I lose about thirty percent of my composure.”
- “You are very lucky I have any patience left.”
- “I like you a dangerous amount.”
- “That outfit is doing something to me that I want to discuss with you privately.”
- “I am barely holding it together right now and that is entirely on you.”
- “You are the worst kind of distraction, which is the kind I do not want to get rid of.”
- “I have been imagining things I probably should not be imagining and you are directly responsible.”
- “Whatever happens next, you started it.”
- “I keep catching myself staring and I have officially given up trying to stop.”
- “You are going to be the reason I cannot concentrate tomorrow and I am fine with that.”
- “There are thoughts in my head right now that I will need your permission to share.”
Part 5: Romantic and Deeply Personal (116 to 135)
These phrases sit at the intersection of desire and genuine emotional connection. They tend to land harder than explicit lines precisely because they communicate something more than physical want. Use them when the moment calls for depth, not just heat.
- “I am so glad I get to have you.”
- “I have never wanted someone the way I want you. That is the truth.”
- “You make me feel things I do not have words for.”
- “I want you in every way that is possible between two people.”
- “Being close to you like this makes everything else feel very far away.”
- “I want to give you everything you want tonight.”
- “You are the thing I look forward to. Full stop.”
- “I want to know every part of you. Not just the obvious ones.”
- “You are beautiful in a way that makes it hard to form sentences.”
- “I want to make you feel half as good as you make me feel.”
- “I love watching you when you stop thinking about how you look.”
- “You make me want to show up differently. Better.”
- “I want tonight to go on for a very long time.”
- “The way you look at me in certain moments turns my entire brain off.”
- “I want to hold onto you and then completely ruin you.”
- “Stay. I am not done with you yet and I mean that as a compliment.”
- “You are the best part of my week. Also the most distracting.”
- “I think about you more than I would comfortably admit to anyone.”
- “I want to explore you slowly. All of you.”
- “You are genuinely, unreasonably attractive and I need you to know it is a lot.”
Part 6: The Morning After and Wanting More (136 to 180)
What you say after sex does more to shape how the experience gets remembered than most people realize. It also sets up whether she is already thinking about next time before she has even left. Do not skip this section.
Right After (136 to 150)
- “That was genuinely incredible.”
- “You are something else. I need a moment.”
- “I have wanted that for a very long time.”
- “Come here. Do not go anywhere yet.”
- “I do not want to let go of you.”
- “You are gorgeous. Especially right now.”
- “I am already thinking about doing that again.”
- “Thank you for trusting me with that.” Especially effective after something new or emotionally vulnerable.
- “I could do that with you every single day.”
- “You are amazing. I want you to hear that.”
- “Stay exactly where you are for a few minutes.”
- “I want to do all of that again but slower.”
- “You feel so good to hold.”
- “I keep replaying certain parts in my head already.”
- “That was better than I even imagined it and I had imagined it quite a lot.”
Morning After and Desire That Carries Over (151 to 180)
- “Last night has been on a loop in my head since I woke up.”
- “I can still feel you and I am not complaining.”
- “I want to do all of that again. Soon.”
- “You were incredible last night. I keep thinking about it.”
- “I keep thinking about the sounds you made.”
- “Whatever you want tonight, my answer is yes before you even ask.”
- “I genuinely do not think I will ever get enough of you.”
- “You have completely ruined me for anyone else and I want you to know I am at peace with that.”
- “Come back to bed.”
- “I woke up this morning already thinking about you.”
- “You are welcome to wake me up like that any time you feel like it.”
- “I have been distracted since the moment I left you this morning.”
- “I want to do everything we did but in a completely different order.”
- “You are all I have thought about today. That is not an exaggeration.”
- “I am counting down to the next time I get to have you.”
- “Nobody has ever made me feel the way you do.”
- “I hope you know how genuinely good you are at that.”
- “You made me feel things last night that I did not know were available to me.”
- “I want to spend the entire weekend in bed with you.”
- “I have completely stopped pretending I can keep my hands to myself around you.”
- “You have destroyed any remaining ability I had to concentrate.”
- “I want more. All of it. Everything.”
- “You are a genuine hazard to my productivity and I could not care less.”
- “I want you in every room of this place.”
- “Whatever last night was, I want to make it permanent.”
- “You are the only distraction I have ever actively chosen.”
- “I keep replaying the part where you looked at me like that.”
- “I want a repeat performance. Tonight if you are willing.”
- “You have set a standard I am going to be thinking about for a long time.”
- “The only thing I want right now is you again.”
The Dirty Talk Mistakes You Need to Stop Making
Knowing 180 phrases does not protect you from these. Most of them happen to men who already have decent instincts but undo all of it through one avoidable error. Read through all of them.
Mistake 1: Moving to Explicit Before the Moment Is Ready
Arousal builds in layers and each layer needs the previous one to be established before the next one works. Skipping ahead signals that you are following your own internal timeline rather than paying attention to hers. Start at the slow burn end of this guide and let the moment pull you forward rather than trying to push it there yourself.
Mistake 2: Sounding Like You Rehearsed
There is a particular kind of flatness that appears when someone is delivering a line rather than expressing something real. Women pick up on it immediately, usually without being able to articulate exactly what felt off. The way to avoid it is not to find better lines, it is to understand what you are actually trying to communicate and let that drive the words. Internalize the intention, not the script.
Mistake 3: Making It About You Instead of Her
Saying what you want is self-focused. Saying what you want with her specifically, because of something particular about her, is an entirely different thing. The second version communicates that your desire is pointed directly at her as an individual. That specificity is one of the most powerful things you can offer and most men never bother with it.
Mistake 4: Checking In With Nervous Energy
Consent check-ins are good. Doing them in a way that broadcasts anxiety or interrupts momentum is not. There is a version of checking in that actually heightens the experience, asking what she wants, telling her to show you what feels good, inviting her feedback. That version does the job without draining the room. The anxious version does not serve anyone.
Mistake 5: Lifting Lines From Porn
Porn dialogue is written to perform to a camera and an audience. In a real intimate context between two actual people, it often reads as oddly formal or accidentally funny because it lacks any personal texture. The energy of something you watched can be useful inspiration. The actual words almost never transfer well.
Mistake 6: Speaking at Normal Volume
Volume is one of the most underused tools in this space. Whispering something directly into someone’s ear is a physical act, not just a verbal one. The closeness, the breath, the intimacy of it activates something that a sentence said at full volume simply cannot. Practice delivering things quietly and close. The difference is significant.
Mistake 7: Not Paying Attention to What She Says Back
Her responses are the most useful data you have access to in real time. A strong vocal reaction to something means stay in that territory. A flat or awkward response means move on without making it into a moment. The men who are genuinely good at this are not the ones with the best lines, they are the ones who listen and adjust constantly.
Mistake 8: Treating Silence as a Problem
Silence between words is not dead air that needs to be filled. It is part of the rhythm. A phrase dropped into genuine quiet hits harder than the same phrase delivered in the middle of a stream of other words. Let things land. Give them room. The restraint itself communicates confidence.
Mistake 9: Skipping the Conversation That Happens Outside the Bedroom
Asking her what she actually likes to hear, in a relaxed moment after sex rather than during it, is the single most efficient thing you can do to improve. Most women have a clear picture of what works for them verbally and have simply never been asked. One genuine conversation gives you more useful information than any list of phrases ever will.
Mistake 10: Using Words She Has Told You She Does Not Like
Individual words carry very different associations for different people. A term that feels exciting to one person is genuinely disconnecting for another. If something has ever gotten a bad reaction, retire it without discussion. The variety across this guide exists precisely so that you have enough range to avoid depending on any single word or phrase.
The One Thing That Makes All of This Work
Every phrase in this guide is in service of the same thing, which is making her feel genuinely desired, fully present, and completely safe with you. The explicit language is a surface expression of something that needs to be real underneath it. Confidence that is performed crumbles quickly. Desire that is specific and honest does not.
Start slow. Read the room at every stage. Notice what produces a reaction and return to that place. When you are not sure what to do, go quieter and more deliberate rather than louder and more effortful. Nearly everything on this list works better delivered with calm certainty than with performance energy behind it.
The 180 phrases here will get you started. Paying close attention to the specific person in front of you will take you the rest of the way.
This guide is intended for consenting adults in mutual, willing interactions only. Consent is ongoing, not a one-time clearance. Respect every verbal and physical signal you receive. Nothing in this article should be used to pressure, manipulate, or override anyone’s expressed comfort or limits.